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social etiquette and white chocolate and coconut cookies

16 July, 2017

There seems to be a fair bit of social etiquette that goes by the wayside nowadays when it comes to being invited to something. And I think it is about time to bring it back.

Firstly, it’s about time that people learn to respect the art of RSVPing to things. Like, seriously guys. Don’t wait until the last minute to respond in case you get a better offer (don’t pretend you’ve never done it). RSVP. As soon as you can. Graciously accepting the invitation or politely declining.

Secondly, turn up to things on time. Don’t leave to get there when it’s meant to start, or, even worse, start getting ready (you know who you are). Think ahead, plan out how long it will take to get ready and get there, and make a conscious effort to arrive at a reasonable time around when the invitation says it starts. And by reasonable, I mean within 15 mins, 30 if it’s relaxed.  Or if you’re going to be late, send a message. You’re already not going to be there on time – the extra thirty seconds it takes to let the host know where you are at is not going to hurt. 

Thirdly, dress for the occasion. Ask about the dress code if you don’t know and follow it. Turning up to a black tie event in your casual gear is not a good look – even if you’re not planning to stay long. You think I’m joking, but someone dropped into my sister’s black tie 21st in their active wear. I wish I was kidding. 

And finally, either ask if the host wants you to bring something or bring something anyway. Just don’t rock up empty handed. It’s not a big deal, but it will be appreciated. If they’re doing everything else, it’s the least you can do. I’m not saying you have to even put much effort into it, but try to think of something – like a block of chocolate, or a bottle of wine. This is especially important if you’ve been invited to someone’s house for the first time. 

Ok, so now I’ve got that little rant off my chest, onto a much better topic. Cookies.

Last week I was invited to a board games night with some people who I had never met before. Given I was the newcomer and didn’t want to risk not being asked back again (I wasn’t relying on my board games skills), I needed to add value to the night in another way.   

So I’m not suggesting that bringing freshly baked cookies will make people like you. But I’ve never been in a situation where I have brought them to something and they haven’t helped, you know what I’m saying? 

These cookies were a bit of an improvisation based on ingredients I had in the house, but they turned out really well. Perhaps not the prettiest cookies I’ve ever made… but what they lacked in appearance, they made up for in taste. I used Aldi White Chocolate and with Coconut (Aldi chocolate is the best, FYI), but you could use whatever type of chocolate you like – you could even use nuts or dried fruit if you’d like (but you’re probably less likely to win friends that way). If you like soft chewy cookies, these might not be for you… but if you like to dunk your cookies in your tea, these will suit you nicely.

white chocolate and coconut cookies
Yields 25
Delicious, firm, butterless cookies that are sure to please.
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  1. 3/4 cup coconut oil (liquid)
  2. 2 tsp. vanilla extract
  3. 2 eggs
  4. 3/4 cup sugar
  5. 3/4 cup packed brown sugar
  6. 2.5 cups self raising flour
  7. 3/4 tsp. salt
  8. 3/4 block of white chocolate with coconut, chopped into chunks
  1. Preheat oven to 180 degrees Celcius.
  2. In a large mixing bowl, combine coconut oil, vanilla, eggs, sugar, and brown sugar and whisk to combine.
  3. Add flour and salt to bowl and stir until ingredients are incorporated and you have a smooth dough.
  4. Fold chocolate chunks into dough until they are evenly distributed.
  5. Line a large baking sheet with baking paper.
  6. Create 5 cm balls out of the dough and place them on the baking sheet about 2 cm apart.
  7. Bake cookies at 180 degrees C for 12-15 minutes until lightly browned. Remove to a wire rack to let cool.
  8. Serve cookies immediately or let them cool completely and then store in an airtight container for about a week (if they last that long).
  1. I had to use all white sugar, because I didn't have brown sugar, but they were still great. Perhaps a little harder, but not too much so.
Adapted from life as a strawberry
Adapted from life as a strawberry
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So I’m not sure if I’m going to be invited back, (actually, given that I may have almost blinded someone with a pencil in my enthusiasm, I highly doubt I will) but at least I tried, and discovered these delicious treats in the meantime. 

What social etiquette do you think needs to be brought back? I would love for you to share in the comments below!  

xx Elizabeth 

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1 Comment

  • Reply Claire B. 21 July, 2017 at 9:26 am

    Yum! I haven’t made cookies with coconut oil before but I’d love to try.

    RSVP’ing (and then following through with what you said you’d do!) really needs to be brought back. I’m trying to get better at it myself. Often, I put off responding because I don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings by declining an invitation… but actually, they’d rather just know as soon as possible if I’m actually going to be there or not!

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