Well, it seems I am now an adult by anyone’s stretch of the imagination. I suppose it probably happened a while ago, but I must admit that turning 25 makes you really face the reality that it is no longer acceptable to put off the responsibilities of life.
Ok, so I may be back living at home. And yeah, I don’t drink coffee. But overall, I don’t think I’m doing too badly for my age. I have got Bachelor and Master’s degrees that are actually (sort of) relevant to my decent full-time job. I’m navigating the world of dating like a blind, one-legged duck, which, if Friends is anything to go by, is pretty much right on track for someone my age (note that the cast of Friends were 25 when the show starts). I’ve lived in another city, I’ve travelled to Europe solo and to parts of Asia, plus I can cook, clean and string together a sentence in writing. Oh, and I also just bought a car and tickets to New York.
Admittedly, I am not going to have it all figured out anytime soon. In fact, I highly doubt I ever will. But I’m learning a lot along the way. As Socrates said:
“I know one thing, that I know nothing.”
This paradox rings very true. The more I learn, the more I realise that I still don’t know. But, I thought I would share some of the things I have learned that have helped me, and will perhaps help you too.
25 life lessons from a 25-year-old
- No one really has it all together. Even those people who you think have it all together, don’t. I am sure that high-powered CEOs on 7 figure salaries don’t often get to just totally switch off and enjoy the little moments of their lives that they will never get back.
- Clear space = clear mind. Keeping your things tidy and well-organised does wonders for your productivity.
- Find a go-to shade of lipstick that suits you and wear it (if in doubt, go Revlon – my favourite shade is caramel glacé).
- Likewise, find a signature scent (or two) and stick to them. Mine are Flowerbomb by Victor and Ralph and Si by Armani.
- Iron your clothes that need to be ironed.
- Don’t wear clothes with stains/ rips etc. Either fix it or donate it to charity if it’s not in good condition.
- Dry shampoo is the best invention ever. I’ve recently switched from Batiste (which is renowned for leaving a white powder) to Klorane, and I must say, it was a good life decision.
- Call people. A text message may be easier, but a phone call is far better for your relationships.
- Go for regular check-ups at the dentist, optometrist, other relevant health professional. And look after your skin (i.e. moisturise and wear sunscreen every day). Prevention is far better than cure.
- On that note, don’t put off seeing medical professionals when you need to. Your health should always be your number one priority.
- Garbage in, garbage out. This goes for what you read, watch, listen to, eat etc. Reading is an amazing way to open your mind if you read the right things.
- “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” (Jim Rohn). Choose these people wisely.
- An omelette is an appropriate, nutritionally balanced meal for any time of day. (Side hack: for an Asian style omelette, try adding soy sauce and seaweed flakes to your egg mixture.)
- Learn how to make a few recipes really well and treat them as your go to. You don’t need to be ready to go on Masterchef (after watching a few episodes this season, I am pretty sure I never will be), but keep a few culinary tricks up your sleeve for when you need to impress.
- We are all on our own journeys – and therefore are all going to do things in our own timing. Forgo the pressure from society and just roll with it.
- Travel is the only investment you will ever make that will ever make you richer. Don’t be scared of going somewhere new, and don’t overthink it. Things will work out.
- The best piece of advice I have ever received for dealing with struggles: “It goes on.”
- Following your passion is only good advice if you know what your passion is. For the rest of us, I’ve found it best to just go with things that you generally enjoy and are pretty good at until you find something that seems to fit for that time.
- Change is hard but inevitable. And just because everyone else is dealing with the same thing, doesn’t make it any easier for you. Be kind to yourself if you’re not dealing with something – no matter how small or ridiculous it may seem – control the controllables, and try to let go of things that you have no power over.
- Don’t text and drive. Someone’s child might step out in front of your car at any time. And someone you love might step in front of a person texting while driving. Don’t be that person. It’s better to be late than dead on time.
- In saying that, respect other’s time. Don’t show up late and if you do, let them know.
- RSVP to invitations before you need to be reminded. It seems my generation have a penchant for waiting to respond to the last minute in case they get a better offer. Don’t do that. It’s rude.
- When someone is not ok for whatever reason, try to think of practical ways to help (e.g. cook a meal for someone who is busy, babysit the older children when your friend has a new baby, drop a box of tissues to a friend who has the flu etc.). Offer to do something, because most times people don’t want to ask.
- Speak your kind thoughts. You never know the impact that a complement can have on a person’s life.
- Make the effort to contact someone when you’re thinking of them. Phone calls are great, but even sending a quick text message will do. Don’t assume you know what’s going on in someone’s life because you follow their social media feed. You probably have no idea.
There are so many more things that I would love to add, and I have no doubt this will only continue to grow. So please share with me some of your life lessons in the comments below.
A girl’s gotta take all the help she can get.